Is it possible to have it all?
A lot of people ask this question. Some people say yes, some people say no. To me, it’s the wrong question altogether. To me, the answer to the question, “Is it possible to have it all?” is not yes or no. It’s another question: “Do you know what your ‘all’ is?”
When people talk about “having it all,” they seem to mean “getting stuff” – a fine job, a great office, stock options, an enviable marriage, cute kids, and so on. That may or may not be possible. It may not even be what you want. What is possible is to have the kind of life you want to live. One in which nothing is missing, where you get what you need – emotionally, spiritually, financially, materially – by being clear on who you are and what you want, by being creative and strategic in having it happen, and by leading yourself wisely to the outcomes.
What does “having it all” mean to you? Does “having it all” mean some societal definition of flashy cars, tropical vacations and a knock-out spouse? Or does it mean a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction with a meaningful job and some time left over for you? Does it mean a warm and pleasant home filled with joy? A billion dollars? Your health? Making a difference in the world? Any of these definitions can work – as long it comes from you.
If you can clearly define your “all” in a way that is grounded, realistic, and optimistic, most likely you can have it. If you define your “all” as some unattainable ideal that amounts to the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, then you might not.
What does “having it all” mean to you? What would you have to
in order to feel you “had it all?”
When you know what your all is, then you can ask the questions. Is that possible? If this is what I want, can I have it all? Can I have it all…all at once? You choose. Do you want to? What would it look like if you did?
If it would be helpful to you to spend more time on this, I suggest getting your FREE copy of the Worksheet I’ve posted on my website for you. It’s called Your All. To find it, go to www.TheInnerEdge.com and click on Worksheets and Audios (on the left). You’ll find Your All toward the bottom of the page.